tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post5919423329162519217..comments2023-10-30T00:50:12.472-07:00Comments on MAGIC WITHOUT CARDS: Caring for your introvert...Ben Mackhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05759180467125362965noreply@blogger.comBlogger15125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-11319202770695600222009-08-20T11:32:17.957-07:002009-08-20T11:32:17.957-07:00hey Ben
That was a really beautiful article and ve...hey Ben<br />That was a really beautiful article and very healing to read. I never in my life have heard someone acknowledge this discomfort of feeling like your on the wrong planet we female introverts experience. And as far as the economy goes, so true 'bout the sway against this type. Maybe a different currency is in order, I always get the feeling that's net.The hidden secrets of Waterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06118088957675345211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-63284979505073907262009-08-03T18:56:47.918-07:002009-08-03T18:56:47.918-07:00I think it is quite amazing when introverts can le...I think it is quite amazing when introverts can learn to entertain extraverts. Yet this is something that happens often.Rick Asterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13451878646408232651noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-50946901307791548302009-08-03T13:42:58.423-07:002009-08-03T13:42:58.423-07:00Hi Ben,
Sorry if I'm late but just got back fr...Hi Ben,<br />Sorry if I'm late but just got back from vacation.<br />Red you're email dated July 27,09 concerning Good Energy.<br /><br />They probably can't see the energy but I'm positive that if all around the world people would get together and send good energy to Earth the result would be extraordinary.<br /><br />Your asking if it can be seen from outer space. I say probably not. But one thing I can say, being a Master *Reiki (*Energy) I constently work with it. Being initiated 20 years ago I treat people and the result are very good. Energy comes from the Univers and good Energy gives phenomenal results.<br /><br />As for being seen, I don't know but being felt definitely. But we never know, modern technology can do things that we never thought was possible.<br /><br />DianeDianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05308999209517278260noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-43325276704880121792009-08-03T12:30:47.841-07:002009-08-03T12:30:47.841-07:00i've gotta show this to my therapist;)i've gotta show this to my therapist;)Erkkihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18040166693938418587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-68717174789264242082009-08-03T12:25:07.325-07:002009-08-03T12:25:07.325-07:00A friend loaned me a book called "The Introve...A friend loaned me a book called "The Introvert Advantage, How to Thrive in an Extrovert World" by Marti Olsen Laney, Psy.D. awhile back which helped me tremendously.<br /><br />OH, she has a website:<br />http://www.theintrovertadvantage.com/<br /><br />I think I knew I was mostly introverted (everyone has aspects of both on a flexible continuum, not one way or the other, always & forever) though I knew little about how to 'take care of' myself because of that.<br /><br />I do much better now and I recommend the book to anyone who wants to understand introverts better.<br /><br />There is a section especially helpful for parents of one type with Children of the other type (they delve into the variations of each and strategies to help out).<br /><br />I enjoyed reading your article Ben,<br /><br />Pam Hoffman<br />http://seminarlist.blogspot.com<br />http://twitter.com/PamHoffmanPam Hoffmanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05957338998462543177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-48123334521390426562009-08-03T12:06:12.110-07:002009-08-03T12:06:12.110-07:00hi Ben,
When I saw your interview with Harv' I...hi Ben,<br />When I saw your interview with Harv' I thought to myself, "there is another one just like me, the posture, the gestures... <br />Before I used to run under the label of being shy... O.K. I guess<br />I'm shy. Until someone <br />said: "pffft... shy. Those people <br />are just arrogant.<br /> Ah yeah, that must be it then! I'm arrogant.<br />Or maybe it's my lack of social skills. I'm German, "we have no <br />social skills!" <br /><br />So, now that I figured out what's wrong with me, or rather you figured it out for me, I'm just wondering why there is only 25% of us and 75% of "them"<br />Do you think that perhaps we are<br />reproducing less?<br /> MMMinkaMMMinkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02592349139671474743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-74366207221709053332009-08-03T10:26:49.704-07:002009-08-03T10:26:49.704-07:00Stephen, yes, Attempting to be an extrovert is exc...Stephen, yes, Attempting to be an extrovert is excruciatingly difficult! We need our down time, we need our literal sense and we need our peace of mind to think things through! <br /><br />Kutyagol I am glad you found solace in my words and that they appear to you as worthy of "good." Thank you!<br /><br />Sheridan, yes... BRAIN SCANs are revealing many patterns of processing. It is the interpretation of these patterns that may tell revealing stories!<br /><br />Addingvalue LOL... I won't tell if you don't ask! :-) Thank you for adding value to my comments. I am grateful for your Good Energy!<br /><br />Hi Cathey, um... I sent it to you and 12k of my closest friends. Thank you for saying hi!<br /><br />Much love,<br /><br />Ben<br />http://GoodEnergyMovement.comBen Mackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05759180467125362965noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-18583909466945364532009-08-03T01:58:57.670-07:002009-08-03T01:58:57.670-07:00Hi Ben,
I am curious why you sent this to me? I a...Hi Ben, <br />I am curious why you sent this to me? I am diffently an introvert. I know I am. I do not fight it. I still sometimes wish I wanted to go to parties more but I don't so instead of thinging I am different I just accept it. My family says I am going to die alone. I love my family alot but they do not understand why I like being alone. I work full time and work in a job that is working with people all day. When my day is done so am I. I need quiet time. Thanks for your thoughts. Sincerely, CatheyAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06141528469648642237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-55558321521347700532009-08-02T12:46:34.164-07:002009-08-02T12:46:34.164-07:00Hi there, I'm curious...
When I go to parties ...Hi there, I'm curious...<br />When I go to parties I have an outrageous time reading books taken from my hosts book shelf. You know huddled up in the corner on a pile of cushions..<br /><br />Is there a chance that I am also an introvert....?<br /><br />Please don't tell me as I don't want to know..addingvaluehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14443163345699917020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-68740809134841164882009-08-02T12:00:13.217-07:002009-08-02T12:00:13.217-07:00Hey Ben! Introvert or extrovert thank you for that...Hey Ben! Introvert or extrovert thank you for that golden opportunity to speak to here at last. At least we introvert brand ourself. To be able to express any kind of thinkings and feelings in us, means one kind of richness of our human nature, because to be rich it is so good feeling, but only when we,ve experienced the opposite of it.<br />We have been created in order to live together with theese opposit qualities, but that is a little bit the question of philosophy which I wouldn,t like to excersise here. Have a Nice Sunday! Thank You!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-38720363502858277602009-08-02T11:51:04.154-07:002009-08-02T11:51:04.154-07:00Hi again! Now I have the power to be able to speak...Hi again! Now I have the power to be able to speak to you so that everybody can read it. At last, it is so good feeling. I,ll tell you why I have men to be oppressing, because those around me doesn,t like to listen to me, but I have to be a master listening to them if I want to remain in life. Accomodation is the secret of surviveing. Vica-versa. To learn nonagressive communication is our main task everyone of us and I have to start with myself, how I am feeling, what is my imagination, what I like, What I don,t like and I,ll never blame you, even though it is a big passion to me as you handle me. We can introvertals and we can crying and shouting lie a baby., but we need for understanding.How good is to be an actor and an actress to show up how we can feel in different situation. Thank you to be able to write out theese thinking from me. Anyway I think every of us has the both side in ourselfs more or less percent.Best of My Greetings for You!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-31985597998241341842009-08-02T11:50:26.756-07:002009-08-02T11:50:26.756-07:00Function follows structure. Or would it be more c...Function follows structure. Or would it be more correct to say structure leads to function? <br /><br />Interesting that introverts process info differently, according to brain scans... according to the author.<br /><br />Thanks for the post, Ben. Illuminating, as ever.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00083916984113482881noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-3718361942279148452009-08-02T11:37:13.814-07:002009-08-02T11:37:13.814-07:00Who speaks , one has the power seemingly.
Thank y...Who speaks , one has the power seemingly.<br />Thank you for invitation to that blogger.com site. I think you has right it can be an orientation and an oppression too to be able to recognise that we are an other kind of people than those who try to opress us. Tough in my opinion that attitude is depend on who are in our sorroundings, it is also true that it,s need a big luck to find the proper partner beside us. Thank you! Good Boy, Many Greetings!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-11577300757096898082009-08-02T11:19:58.651-07:002009-08-02T11:19:58.651-07:00Thanks so much for this writing!
I always used t...Thanks so much for this writing! <br /><br />I always used to be the introvert trying to be an extrovert and it nearly killed me!<br /><br />I found out these concepts a few years ago during counselling after the breakup of my marriage. I'd continued to see the counsellor for a while and explained to him how I didn't feel how I quite fit in. I discovered he was an intovert too and explained how being with people and socializing drains us and we need time alone to recharge. And how thats just fine!<br /><br />Whats a difference its made in my life. Now if I go to a party or if I'm at a conference I have no problem excusing myself when I feel like leaving and going home or back to my room. Especially at conferences I have a much more enjoyable time, get more out of them etc....<br /><br />regards<br />steveSteve Ticknerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10469208046045075238noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3782524545865091288.post-13602218953183991022009-08-02T10:29:18.371-07:002009-08-02T10:29:18.371-07:00...(continued)
Are introverts oppressed? I would ......(continued)<br /><br />Are introverts oppressed? I would have to say so. For one thing, extroverts are overrepresented in politics, a profession in which only the garrulous are really comfortable. Look at George W. Bush. Look at Bill Clinton. They seem to come fully to life only around other people. To think of the few introverts who did rise to the top in politics—Calvin Coolidge, Richard Nixon—is merely to drive home the point. With the possible exception of Ronald Reagan, whose fabled aloofness and privateness were probably signs of a deep introverted streak (many actors, I've read, are introverts, and many introverts, when socializing, feel like actors), introverts are not considered "naturals" in politics.<br /><br />Extroverts therefore dominate public life. This is a pity. If we introverts ran the world, it would no doubt be a calmer, saner, more peaceful sort of place. As Coolidge is supposed to have said, "Don't you know that four fifths of all our troubles in this life would disappear if we would just sit down and keep still?" (He is also supposed to have said, "If you don't say anything, you won't be called on to repeat it." The only thing a true introvert dislikes more than talking about himself is repeating himself.)<br /><br />With their endless appetite for talk and attention, extroverts also dominate social life, so they tend to set expectations. In our extrovertist society, being outgoing is considered normal and therefore desirable, a mark of happiness, confidence, leadership. Extroverts are seen as bighearted, vibrant, warm, empathic. "People person" is a compliment. Introverts are described with words like "guarded," "loner," "reserved," "taciturn," "self-contained," "private"—narrow, ungenerous words, words that suggest emotional parsimony and smallness of personality. Female introverts, I suspect, must suffer especially. In certain circles, particularly in the Midwest, a man can still sometimes get away with being what they used to call a strong and silent type; introverted women, lacking that alternative, are even more likely than men to be perceived as timid, withdrawn, haughty.<br /><br />Are introverts arrogant? Hardly. I suppose this common misconception has to do with our being more intelligent, more reflective, more independent, more level-headed, more refined, and more sensitive than extroverts. Also, it is probably due to our lack of small talk, a lack that extroverts often mistake for disdain. We tend to think before talking, whereas extroverts tend to think by talking, which is why their meetings never last less than six hours. "Introverts," writes a perceptive fellow named Thomas P. Crouser, in an online review of a recent book called Why Should Extroverts Make All the Money? (I'm not making that up, either), "are driven to distraction by the semi-internal dialogue extroverts tend to conduct. Introverts don't outwardly complain, instead roll their eyes and silently curse the darkness." Just so.<br /><br />The worst of it is that extroverts have no idea of the torment they put us through. Sometimes, as we gasp for air amid the fog of their 98-percent-content-free talk, we wonder if extroverts even bother to listen to themselves. Still, we endure stoically, because the etiquette books—written, no doubt, by extroverts—regard declining to banter as rude and gaps in conversation as awkward. We can only dream that someday, when our condition is more widely understood, when perhaps an Introverts' Rights movement has blossomed and borne fruit, it will not be impolite to say "I'm an introvert. You are a wonderful person and I like you. But now please shush."<br /><br />How can I let the introvert in my life know that I support him and respect his choice? First, recognize that it's not a choice. It's not a lifestyle. It's an orientation.<br /><br />Second, when you see an introvert lost in thought, don't say "What's the matter?" or "Are you all right?"<br /><br />Third, don't say anything else, either.Ben Mackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05759180467125362965noreply@blogger.com